Dear
Bride and Groom "to be",
Congratulations.
I am so happy for you.
Long live your love as you plan
your big day.
Please accept my best wishes as
you find below a list of weird things that happen at Nigerian weddings that you
might need to proactively take a decision on and agree on the way forward
before the matter progresses into a mini world war II with implications far
reaching even after the birth of your 3rd child.
1. Who
are the real celebrants; you (wide eyed, young couple) or ya parents (....words
fail me because my mother may read this...she had a mother of the bride shower
which she threw for herself on the eve of my wedding while I was alone in front
of the TV....Let me not discuss the dance to the high table which was longer
than the entire wedding put together minus the one she danced during
"offering time" at the church)
2. If you
decide that you are the real celebrants, how many people do you really want to
be at this party? As in can your mum/mother in law share photocopies of your
wedding IVs? Even after you have allocated 100“originals” to her? Can she go
ahead to commission a bulk SMS push to people even in the village who do not
know your complexion, shape or voice?
3. This
High table matter! How do you want it? Or .....not want it?....And there is the
matter of the life bringing Kolanuts which do not speak English by the way.
4. Who is
going to be MR. Chairman? What is his real work? Do you really need one? And if
you do, are you planning on listening to his speech or is the general plan to
actually torture the guests with his long speech and fervent prayers which keep
referring to what the priest or pastor said in church?
5. The
friends in “Aso ebi” who will dance in with you; can your closest friend also
allow the ones who have only deposited some cash to dance with you? What about
those who are still owing and those who are well known to owe for "Aso
ebi" as a calling...(whom you swore you would never enter their trap) but
somehow they still managed to get the fabric?
6. Is it
a DJ matter or a live band matter? Or are you using both? Whichever way you are
towing? Can you ensure that all the songs can work for dancing so your uncles
will not be going to the music stand frequently to scream at the top of their
voices...... “give them a danceable song, a danceable song!”
7. If a
live band will be at this wedding, will you hire a proper wedding band that
will bill you accordingly and concentrate on celebrating your love via music or
a band that for whatever reason will spend more time singing the praises of
everyone else....(especially when the persons flash 1000 Naira bills or foreign
currency).... in the anticipation that these persons can remember to rain some
of the cash on them as well?
8. This
venue decor matter....Is it to make the venue look better and more appealing to
the physical eye and in pictures?..... or to totally transform the venue and
create a whole new ambience?...... or is it to show people that you have
arrived and can afford to display all the possible decor themes known to man in
one space?
9. About
the 4 to 6 tiered cakes; are you ok with the matured uncles and aunty
“observers” who manage to see and predict your entire future just by watching
both of you cut the cake on that day?
10. Which
refreshments philosophy do you want to subscribe to for this big day? There are
several; some are even designed to torture the guests especially if they are
your uncles and aunties who never thought this day will come.
Food
philosophies are as follows :
a) Don’t start serving food and drinks early or
else people will go early after all everybody knows that before you go for a
wedding you should eat well.
b) Food and drinks do not have to reach everybody
just ensure it is visible to all. Just because the rice or wine did not reach
them does not mean there was no rice or wine at the party O jare!
c) Pre plan and pay for food and drinks per expected
number of guests and appoint people per the various sects represented (family,
work, friends etc) to guide the service guys and gals
d) Buffet! Buffet! Buffet! Minimum of 2 serving
points per venue.
11. Are
you going to make souvenirs/party favours/keepsakes? If yes, what kind? Plenty
of the usual stuff which will end up as clutter that people feel too guilty to
throw away or something different and actually useful to people long after the
day?
12. When
it is time for exchange of gifts after the dance, should the guests form a long
American Embassy type queue with their gifts held out submissively in exchange
for a royal handshake from you the scared groom (because people are wicked and they want to kill you on this day)
and the blushing bride (usually confused
on whether to stand or sit, courtesy or bow at this point in the event) or
would you prefer a well coordinated gift stand and enough souvenirs to be
shared to all...whether they bring gifts or not?
13. This
Dance! Dance! Dance! matter and the concomitant spraying. Do you have a target
amount you want to dance for or are we working with a time frame? This will
determine the number and size of polythene bags, plastic buckets or sacks that
all your single, pretty, female relatives and friends will use to grudgingly
squat to pack the money with as they adjust their strapless shinning dresses
and squirm in their matching stilettos and long weaves.
Are you
going to call a
Classy. Hilarious.
Innovative. Gorgeous.Original
Compere in the "persona grata" of moi on
08022228091 to tie it all up nicely for you...hijacked day by your parents or
NOT!?
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