Our brother the wife beater doesn’t have a job...he is
seeking employment. Whether he had one and lost it or he never had one from the
beginning, I did not get that detail.
Our sister “the beaten” has a very good job and has been
paying for everything apart from oxygen. They had a fight and she told him in
so many words I do not care to repeat that he is a failure and a loser and the
only proof that he is a man is the physical body part that God gave to all men.
(Don’t you just love how decent I am?)
He then descended upon her and brother story teller was now
saying his friend was pushed to the wall and that was why he had to beat his
wife.
These are my thoughts and I shared them freely.
Brother wife beater should not have beaten his wife, he
should have beaten himself....For either of two reasons...One for selecting a
wife that would hurt his ego this bad out of all the girls out there OR two-
for allowing things degenerate so much in his home that the person who is closest
to him in this world and knows him so completely could sum him up like that.
She was not right to speak to her husband like that no
matter how frustrated she was...surely there are better ways to channel your
grievance in all relationships and by all means let’s find it.
However there is a malady under the sun that I see these
days and I want to rant about it.
Our mothers were house wives, our fathers took advantage of
our mothers and held the money over their heads and took advantage of their
helplessness. The daughters watched and grew up resolving to work and make
money. Women of today are self motivated and would rather turn black under the
sun selling pepper and making some money (no matter how little) than stay at
home and depend on a man for money. They just don’t have that level of trust
for men anymore. (of course there are a
few that don’t want to do anything but the irony of it all is that they keep
getting “found” by men who want working girls...this is story for another day)
So because of the scenario I painted above, you have a
significant percentage of women making more money than men today. Not
necessarily a bad thing...but I take exception when the man takes advantage of
the woman’s drive to succeed and does absolutely nothing or is not creative
about this challenge.
It is not until we wait for you to take someone to a shrine
and do xyz that we will say you are using the person for rituals. I dares ay
some men are using their wives for rituals by using her purely as a stream of
income and not a helper. There are lines please! And a lot of men are crossing
those lines based on the feedback we are receiving from women.
Don’t get me wrong, I believe women should work. Beyond
working for the money, it helps your mind, it helps your health and it endears
your husband to you more because men are hunters - something has to be attractive
for you to want to get it and they want a woman who can also engage them
mentally.
Working does not necessarily mean getting a bank job or
getting employed...a tomato seller’s job is to sell tomatoes. Chigo works as a Compere
, Rita Dominic works as an actress, Linda Ikeji is a blogger. Babes, find
something you like or you are good at and turn it to a source of revenue...that
is work and it becomes your job. Especially if you are not married to or
planning to marry an armed robber or a drug lord.
....So brother story teller kept on saying brother wife beater
had been looking for a job and had not found one for years and he kept asking
if brother wife beater should kill him self or turn himself into money.
My response was that brother wife beater should have since
found something to sell...and before story teller could say...CAPITAL. ...I
asked him if brother wife beater had tried selling pure water in rfont of his house (or delivering to his neighbours)or hair barbing or
laundry service ...the list is endless of businesses you need little or no cash to start if you are serious. You don’t need capital to start a
business, you need an idea. Ideas are free.
If a man is creative, and is determined/making the effort to
be a responsible husband, a good woman would respect him no matter how small
his beginning is. You can never sweep it under the carpet, it is a truth and a
fact that women are built for security, we like to be comfortable and have the
finer things in life. We may tell you that you have nothing and it does not
matter but it’s only a matter of time, if you don’t grow from that your state
of nothing, you are gonna have a disgruntled woman in your house. Even water
changes its state so guy...you gotta grow. Don’t ask me why? Ask God ...didn’t
you see that Eve entered an already furnished home with a garden, plenty elephant jeeps and camel SUVs and Chigo air conditioner trees every
where? ...Check Genesis 2!!!!
My guy leave this ya job hunting something if it’s not
working for you now, catch a vision, start a business, start small, grow the
business, be disciplined. Love your
wife, give effort to the marriage...as
in don’t expect her to do all the work to make money, take care of the home,
the kids, your ego, your “needs” and still try to put an appearance that all is
well in the home all by herself while you just keep making demands, incurring
bills and hanging with your boys and putting up a pretence outside and throwing
a pity parties and raging tantrums when you come inside
Mr. Man rise up...there is a king in you, find him, polish
him and make your wife proud. If not, the next time she insults you, beat
yourself up instead of her. Nobody will call you a name that you have not given
to yourself.
And oy! As for you young man who doesn’t know where his next
meal is coming from or his next pay check is coming from but you keep
professing love to one girl or the other and you say you want to marry. Clear from
there. He that has no job should not marry...No romance without finance.
Stop looking for a girl you will use for rituals or turn her
into your slave-to be coughing out money for you while you just loaf around
with big dreams going no where fast because she made a mistake to love you.
I dey vex.
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